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In many fundraising teams, donor stewardship follows a predictable script: a $250 donor gets a thank-you note and an annual report, a $500 donor also receives a quarterly newsletter and so on. While this approach acknowledges generosity, it also keeps donors in a holding pattern—focused on their last contribution rather than future possibilities.

What if stewardship wasn’t just about recognition and acknowledgement? By aligning stewardship with moves management, we can create a dynamic, forward-facing strategy that deepens engagement and drives transformational giving.

The ocean has a funny way of teaching you humility. Several years ago, I decided to tackle a new challenge: surfing. My first foray into the Pacific was less than graceful. Armed with a rented board and a healthy dose of overconfidence, I paddled out with the singular goal of getting beyond those crashing, churning waves.

And fight, I did.

Ever wish you could just hit “reset” on a hectic day? Or on a season of your work that feels heavy, cluttered, and out of focus?

Here’s the truth: your team feels that, too. And sometimes, the best leadership move you can make is to pause, step back, and help everyone realign around what truly matters.

While every day offers the option for a reset, it seems that most of us use a specific point in time, anniversary, or significant life event to pause, reflect and begin again. Psychologists say that resetting involves re-centering or a fresh start, often aiming to clear mental clutter and negative patterns.

We have all at some point found ourselves heading down the wrong path faced with the choice to push forward or retrace our steps and start out again. If we are not careful, we can view this needed U-turn as time wasted, resources squandered or even failure. If you are the leader and your team has been following close on your heels, this change in direction can feel embarrassing and humbling. You might worry that others will questions your ability to lead.

A quick Google search on “How many messages are adults receiving daily?” and “How much information are we exposed to each day?” produced varied results, but suffice it to say – it’s a lot. Between the media (printed and digital) we are actively consuming and the not-so-subtle ads and messages that creep in, it can feel like information overload.

Apply this to the work of nonprofits and it’s more important than ever to be able to clearly – and quickly – articulate your case for support.

Aspects of our work often lend themselves to sports-driven analogies and for good reason. Fundraising, like sports, is strategic, competitive, and driven by shared purpose and heart.

With the uncertainty nonprofits face today, leaning into an axiom coined by my son’s basketball coach provides us a valuable and effective approach to navigate our shifting landscape: Control the Controllables or C.T.C. Let go of what you can’t change and take control of the things you can = C.T.C.

My next-door neighbor volunteers as a board member for a local nonprofit organization. She and I were talking while working in our backyards. She asked my thoughts on how to make routine and often boring meetings worth her time and energy.

Her thoughts expressed a frustration that I know too well: board meetings that often feel, well, less than inspiring. As she described the predictable flow and the sense that they weren't truly digging into the meaty issues, a question popped into my head, one that I think holds the key to unlocking more engaging and impactful board sessions.

Maybe you've felt it before. That moment when you're face-to-face with a potential major donor, or standing before your board, or speaking to a community group, and despite your preparation, passion and expertise, you can see their attention drifting. You know your organization's work is transformative. You can recite the statistics. You understand the impact. But somehow, in that moment, the magic of your mission isn't communicated as vividly as you hoped it would be.

I've been there and that is why I’m excited to share some reflections from a book I have read that has helped shape my approach to storytelling. Karen Eber's book, The Perfect Story: How to Tell Stories That Inspire Action and Get Results offers science-based frameworks that are easy to apply to how you tell stories about your organization’s impact and mission in action.

In The Anxious Generation, social psychologist Jonathan Haidt presents a compelling case for how smartphones and social media have transformed childhood—from active, play-based experiences to phone-based, screen-dominated ones. While much of the conversation around the book has focused on youth mental health, Haidt’s research holds deeper relevance for all of us living in an increasingly distracted, hyper-connected world.

As I read, I found myself reflecting not just on childhood, but on adulthood and on how we connect with one another as family members, neighbors, colleagues, and members of a shared community. Haidt’s analysis of how technology rewires our brains and behaviors applies just as powerfully to adults as it does to kids. And in the nonprofit sector, where our work depends on meaningful relationships and shared purpose, those insights feel especially critical.

I’ve been spending an increased amount of time in The Bible over the last couple of years and continue to be struck by how much practical application to donor relations there is in the teaching of Jesus. “Ask and you shall receive” encourages us to approach a fulfiller of needs with faith and diligence. The “parable of the talents” shows the benefit of being good stewards with what has been entrusted to us, namely that more will be entrusted.