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Imagine this: It's mid-November, your inbox is overflowing, your year-end campaign is ramping up, and somewhere in the back of your mind, you know you should be thinking more intentionally about thanking your donors. But between grant deadlines, board meetings, and program demands, "meaningful donor stewardship" feels like another item on an already long to-do list.

I get it. And here's what I've learned from working with nonprofit leaders who've cracked this code: the organizations that make their donors feel genuinely appreciated aren't necessarily the ones with the biggest development teams or the fanciest CRM systems. They're the ones who've figured out how to scale gratitude and authenticity and they're doing it in ways that might surprise you.

Have you ever experienced the excitement of securing that first donation from a supporter, only to feel the connection slowly fade away? It’s a common frustration among nonprofit leaders—like trying to hold water in your hands; no matter how tightly you grasp, it slips through your fingers.

This isn’t just a feeling. It’s backed by data. The 2025 Virtuous Benchmark Report reveals that the average gross donor retention rate across nonprofits sits at just 50.4%. That means nearly half of donors disappear each year. First-time donors? The numbers are even bleaker—up to 70% never give again.

As fundraisers or nonprofit leaders, we express gratitude in a million ways. We appreciate the volunteers and donors who show up to events or support our cause. We are grateful to the corporations and the people within the companies who sponsor our events and the supporters who remember our organizations in their wills. We honor the small gifts that are so heartfelt and the big gifts that represent transformation.

The pool of donor-advised fund (DAF) assets is projected to exceed $2 trillion by 2026. It often flows through channels that can conceal the actual donors behind the gifts. While this can be a challenge, it also represents an enormous opportunity for leaders who know how to make the invisible visible.

A couple years ago, I decided to sign up for my first ever beginner triathlon. Even though I didn’t have a training schedule, I did have an irrational sense of optimism – what else could I possibly need?  Without a plan, I showed up on race day to the start line without goggles and one sock. Unprepared but still optimistic. I can manage a short swim, bike ride, and 5k because I had done those exercises in some form before – how hard could it be?

Needless to say, I found myself struggling to make it through. By the run, I was exhausted and would shamelessly run when there were cheerleaders and spectators and would walk when no one was watching.

I finished, but it was messy.

That experience taught me something important: passion and optimism are great, but without a focused plan and intentional execution, you’ll spend more energy scrambling than succeeding.

The same is true in fundraising…especially at year-end.

Recently passed tax legislation will bring significant changes to charitable giving starting in 2026, creating both opportunities and challenges for donors across all income levels. Understanding these changes now could help you thoughtfully guide your donors through this altered landscape as they plan their year-end giving.

Maybe you've felt it before. That moment when you're face-to-face with a potential major donor, or standing before your board, or speaking to a community group, and despite your preparation, passion and expertise, you can see their attention drifting. You know your organization's work is transformative. You can recite the statistics. You understand the impact. But somehow, in that moment, the magic of your mission isn't communicated as vividly as you hoped it would be.

I've been there and that is why I’m excited to share some reflections from a book I have read that has helped shape my approach to storytelling. Karen Eber's book, The Perfect Story: How to Tell Stories That Inspire Action and Get Results offers science-based frameworks that are easy to apply to how you tell stories about your organization’s impact and mission in action.

In The Anxious Generation, social psychologist Jonathan Haidt presents a compelling case for how smartphones and social media have transformed childhood—from active, play-based experiences to phone-based, screen-dominated ones. While much of the conversation around the book has focused on youth mental health, Haidt’s research holds deeper relevance for all of us living in an increasingly distracted, hyper-connected world.

As I read, I found myself reflecting not just on childhood, but on adulthood and on how we connect with one another as family members, neighbors, colleagues, and members of a shared community. Haidt’s analysis of how technology rewires our brains and behaviors applies just as powerfully to adults as it does to kids. And in the nonprofit sector, where our work depends on meaningful relationships and shared purpose, those insights feel especially critical.

I’ve been spending an increased amount of time in The Bible over the last couple of years and continue to be struck by how much practical application to donor relations there is in the teaching of Jesus. “Ask and you shall receive” encourages us to approach a fulfiller of needs with faith and diligence. The “parable of the talents” shows the benefit of being good stewards with what has been entrusted to us, namely that more will be entrusted.

The Headwinds

Turmoil and uncertainty leave nonprofit volunteers and staff at a loss. Should we launch our campaign? Should we pause our campaign? What about our annual fund? Where do we go from here where “here” keeps shifting?